1. hardly anyone uses cash, although sure it is possible, but then my bank transactions would show I never take out cash.
2. Sure I will probably also talk to a lawyer, but you don't really get any payment for your time, so probably what I will instead do is to make complaints to various government agencies, and to do that I want as much data as possible.
I clearly don't know you or your specific situation, so take this with appropriate caution.
It sounds to me like there is much in your life you cannot control. That sucks. Sorry for that.
But it seems like this specific thing is something you feel you can control, and so you are investing an excess of effort in it.
Perhaps consider if going down this road is ultimately helpful to you, or to your son. Are there other places to spend your energy which would be more beneficial?
I'd also suggest that your endeavor here is fruitless. Ultimately showing you don't buy alcohol does not equate to proving your sobriety. There are too many ways to source, or even make, your own. Plus drunks are notorious liars, so pursuing this matter obsessively hurts rather than helps your case.
Obviously formally note your objection to the report. But then, if you can, move on. And I hope that the new support is helping you avoid some of the conditions that lead up to this event in the first place.
>But it seems like this specific thing is something you feel you can control, and so you are investing an excess of effort in it.
maybe. I think it's more that there is a lot of emotional stuff involved here. In Denmark, many people drink A LOT and that's their right, I don't much care for it but hey they like it they should be allowed to do it. That's on the surface, but down below drunkenness makes me somewhat annoyed.
So on the emotional, knee-jerk level it strikes me as extremely unfair to be accused of drunkenness by a bunch of drunks, even though on the surface I feel well it is ok with their drinking. If you see my point.
Aside from that I have to still meet these people every day I
Of course it might just be my Danishness coming through, I remember reading one of those "what nations think of other nations" funny articles on the internet about 2006 and it said the what other people thought of Danes was "really nice wonderful people until they think something is unfair at which point they become raving lunatics" and I thought, well that hits pretty close to home.
The child protective services already said they don't think I drink, but I still feel the school is unfair, insulting, and out of line. Why would they stop their behavior unless they get fought? Sure it's not to my benefit specifically to fight, but it sure is to their benefit that I don't.
>Plus drunks are notorious liars
My experience with my alcoholic parents was not that they would claim not to drink, just that they would claim not to have drank that day, or just to have had one beer when they had a dozen, or claim that they could handle it.
>Ultimately showing you don't buy alcohol does not equate to proving your sobriety.
Sure but in legal situations it is generally given that the preponderance of the evidence and its narrative cohesiveness leads to the conclusion, I have a doctor's report I don't drink, people's affidavits I don't drink, child protective services saw no evidence of drinking at my house, convenience store workers confirm I don't buy alcohol from them, so showing by purchase history across all bank transactions I don't buy alcohol is one more corroborating bit of evidence.
No court would feel "yeah but he could be brewing his own" as a valid argument given all the other evidence contra drinking.
yes. Sort of. In a Danish understanding ærekrænkelse - honor violation a more precise definition, is generally something that has to do with the media. So that they send a report Bryan is often drunk but that day he was very drunk and we could tell because he wasn't walking very well, didn't meet our eyes when he picked up his kid and didn't talk and moved his mouth away from us so we couldn't smell his breath (the proofs of my drunkenness given) to child protective services that is just them doing their job.
I mean I don't mind them thinking hey, maybe he's drunk, although they could have asked "Is something wrong" and I would have said "I'm really tired today", but I do mind that they were told no I don't drink you're wrong, and they decided no, that they couldn't possibly be wrong.
be ready to give bloodwork, the rest are people putting hell in your life - so ignore them.
And if you use cash to buy alcohol? But this is something to talk to a lawyer about if it mean that much to you.
well, this is in Denmark so
1. hardly anyone uses cash, although sure it is possible, but then my bank transactions would show I never take out cash.
2. Sure I will probably also talk to a lawyer, but you don't really get any payment for your time, so probably what I will instead do is to make complaints to various government agencies, and to do that I want as much data as possible.
I clearly don't know you or your specific situation, so take this with appropriate caution.
It sounds to me like there is much in your life you cannot control. That sucks. Sorry for that.
But it seems like this specific thing is something you feel you can control, and so you are investing an excess of effort in it.
Perhaps consider if going down this road is ultimately helpful to you, or to your son. Are there other places to spend your energy which would be more beneficial?
I'd also suggest that your endeavor here is fruitless. Ultimately showing you don't buy alcohol does not equate to proving your sobriety. There are too many ways to source, or even make, your own. Plus drunks are notorious liars, so pursuing this matter obsessively hurts rather than helps your case.
Obviously formally note your objection to the report. But then, if you can, move on. And I hope that the new support is helping you avoid some of the conditions that lead up to this event in the first place.
>But it seems like this specific thing is something you feel you can control, and so you are investing an excess of effort in it.
maybe. I think it's more that there is a lot of emotional stuff involved here. In Denmark, many people drink A LOT and that's their right, I don't much care for it but hey they like it they should be allowed to do it. That's on the surface, but down below drunkenness makes me somewhat annoyed.
So on the emotional, knee-jerk level it strikes me as extremely unfair to be accused of drunkenness by a bunch of drunks, even though on the surface I feel well it is ok with their drinking. If you see my point.
Aside from that I have to still meet these people every day I Of course it might just be my Danishness coming through, I remember reading one of those "what nations think of other nations" funny articles on the internet about 2006 and it said the what other people thought of Danes was "really nice wonderful people until they think something is unfair at which point they become raving lunatics" and I thought, well that hits pretty close to home.
The child protective services already said they don't think I drink, but I still feel the school is unfair, insulting, and out of line. Why would they stop their behavior unless they get fought? Sure it's not to my benefit specifically to fight, but it sure is to their benefit that I don't.
>Plus drunks are notorious liars
My experience with my alcoholic parents was not that they would claim not to drink, just that they would claim not to have drank that day, or just to have had one beer when they had a dozen, or claim that they could handle it.
>Ultimately showing you don't buy alcohol does not equate to proving your sobriety.
Sure but in legal situations it is generally given that the preponderance of the evidence and its narrative cohesiveness leads to the conclusion, I have a doctor's report I don't drink, people's affidavits I don't drink, child protective services saw no evidence of drinking at my house, convenience store workers confirm I don't buy alcohol from them, so showing by purchase history across all bank transactions I don't buy alcohol is one more corroborating bit of evidence.
No court would feel "yeah but he could be brewing his own" as a valid argument given all the other evidence contra drinking.
I can’t help you, sorry. Just hope you don’t get trapped in that whole self‑proving loop forever.
Isn't that amounting to defamation?
yes. Sort of. In a Danish understanding ærekrænkelse - honor violation a more precise definition, is generally something that has to do with the media. So that they send a report Bryan is often drunk but that day he was very drunk and we could tell because he wasn't walking very well, didn't meet our eyes when he picked up his kid and didn't talk and moved his mouth away from us so we couldn't smell his breath (the proofs of my drunkenness given) to child protective services that is just them doing their job.
I mean I don't mind them thinking hey, maybe he's drunk, although they could have asked "Is something wrong" and I would have said "I'm really tired today", but I do mind that they were told no I don't drink you're wrong, and they decided no, that they couldn't possibly be wrong.